Assumptions connected to sexuality

I recently came across an blog post that raised a good question about some of the assumptions we make connected to sexuality:

"No one ever wanted to know that I was celibate when they believed I was straight. Even when I had a boyfriend, not a single person ever questioned my sexual purity. But now that I’m openly gay, everyone in the church wants to hear that I’m celibate. More than that, almost universally, I’m exhorted to open my heart to the possibility of finding a man. It makes you wonder. Why is the straight life automatically holy but the queer life automatically sinful?"

So much of the conversation within our churches about sexuality tends to focus on having the right views, meaning whether or not I'm affirming of same-sex relationships. Shouldn't it be focused on whether we are honouring God with our sexuality, irrelevant of whether or not we are single and/or heterosexual?